Practical comfort for pregnancy loss

When pregnancy ends, care shouldn’t.

The Care After is a new initiative born from the Menopolooza community, a growing non-profit project dedicated to offering practical support and dignity to people experiencing miscarriage.

“You’re expected to centre the grief of a thing that no longer exists, before attending to the body that very much does”

We live in a culture that grieves in whispers and in silence. When a miscarriage happens, everyone rushes to the spiritual, the symbolic — the grief of what might have been — but few stop to ask about the bleeding, the pain, or the hollow exhaustion that comes from losing something your body worked so hard to hold.

Our physical pain is treated like an afterthought, something too messy, too uncomfortable, too “medical” to name out loud. We’re handed platitudes instead of painkillers. We’re told to rest, but rarely given the tools or information to actually recover. And when our bodies ache, we often turn that pain inward, blaming ourselves, wondering what we did wrong, what our bodies failed to do.

The truth is that miscarriage is not rare or shameful. It’s profoundly human. One in four pregnancies ends in miscarriage. One in four, yet we still act as though it’s unspeakable. We still send women home in hospital socks and silence, to manage both the physical aftermath and the invisible grief alone.

The Care After was created to change that, to bring compassion back to the body. To offer something tangible in the space between loss and recovery. To say: Your body is not broken. It deserves care. You deserve care.

Too often, women are sent home from hospitals or clinics with nothing- no information, no useful products. The Care After exists to change that. We aim to provide thoughtfully assembled care kits containing essential items — and clear, compassionate information about what to expect in the days ahead.

These kits are designed to meet immediate physical needs and offer a quiet acknowledgment that what happened matters. They’re a small act of compassion that says: you are seen, and you deserve care.

We are currently in the process of establishing The Care After as a registered non-profit, with the goal of providing these kits to hospitals, clinics, and midwifery practices across British Columbia and hopefully across Canada. Our mission is simple: no one should leave miscarriage care without comfort, information, and dignity.

If you’d like to be part of this early stage — through donations, partnerships, or volunteer help, we would love to hear from you. Please connect with us.

Because compassion belongs in every kind of care.